The ban has been lifted. This evening, at 7:30PM, Geoff and I and a few of our trusted friends will engage our first adult beverage in 11 days. So it wasn’t a full two weeks, but we have a rehearsal dinner and wedding this weekend, so, you know, we gotta live.
Things I learned in these 11 days:
1. I ache for coffee. I just sort of long for booze.
2. I am a highly skilled Taboo player when totally sober.
3. Yes, drinking makes you fat. I did yoga a few times and pretty much ate whatever I wanted and still lost 4lbs.
4. Drinking is expensive. We hardly spent any money this weekend, and what we did spend was on brunches and dinners with friends that didn’t put us out of our budget.
5. Food is less exciting without booze. Sure, brunch was great, but a mimosa really makes it better. What is the point of pasta without wine? You tell me. & pizza? Fuggetaboutit!
6. Sleep improves, but only slightly. We still have the insomniac cat, after all.
7. Productivity increases when you’re not hungover. Duh.
8. The weekends are dull. I am still a kid in party mode most of the time! I want to hangout with my friends and have a glass of wine! So sue me, ugh. There was no point to meeting up with my buds at 11pm if I was going to be sober and tired and want to go to bed in an hour. Nobody wants that Caitlin around!
9. I have willpower! I always thought I had none, but this wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be.
So that’s that. Some benefits. Some deficiets. All and all, a decent experiment I’d recommed to anyone who feels like they rely on alcohol for entertainment too much. Like all things you think you “need”, go a week or so without it and you’ll realize it’s not that important.
Next week maybe I will try giving up cheese (again)!
Little known fact – my college thesis was about protest music! I was experiencing extreme senioritis when I wrote it, so I think I got like a B+/A-, but that is neither here nor there. The point is, as I’ve been watching the Occupy Wall Street protest grow and gain traction, I can’t help but think that what this movement really needs is a modern day Woody Guthrie/The Clash/Bruce Springsteen. You know, someone really sexy and cool.
This person (or group of people) could host concerts, make commercials, lobby congress, and get those rich 1% celebrities behind him/her. While I’d like to think “the people” could do this without celebrity endorsement, name a great Western World call to action that hasn’t had a major effect on music or popular culture? Once we can get well known people actually talking about the causes behind OWS on television, the radio, YouTube videos and late night talk shows, we will start to see some action. If you can remind our parent’s generation of the way they felt in the late 60s and early 70s, I can guarantee they will start to put their dollars and political power behind the cause. One surefire way to do this? Give the movement an excellent soundtrack.
I think we have to be hyper strategic in who we pick to represent Occupy Wall Street. I don’t really think it matters if this person or band is already super rich (though, for some reason I am leaving Bey and Jay of this list), because I don’t think this movement is about hating super rich people. I just think this person has to cross a lot of preference lines, have a powerful voice, and not be super old or Coldplay.
So, without further nonsense, here are my Top Picks for “We Are the 99%” Musician:
Florence and The Machine
Okay, not American, but does it really matter? I think she could write a totally loud, powerful stadium anthem that would echo all over the goddamn place. Everyone from Gossip Girl to football thinks she’s cool. Also, red hair – killing two causes with one loud song!
A new band, sure, but they’ve got an old sound. A couple of kids from NYU, easily likeable, I think they’d be a creative/futuristic pick. Also, speaking of hair — so Haight-Ashbury! Might have to change their name…
What’s better than a gorgeous man with an acoustic guitar? A gorgeous gay man with an acoustic guitar! Seriously folks, this is a progressive movement. Let’s go all the way!
I almost didn’t want to include her on this list because, ugh, so obvious. But let’s be real, Obama already likes her, the conservatives are used to her brand of crazy, and the kids respect her message. Also, I think she’d be up for the challenge.
We want him to return to music. This could be a good reason. Also, maybe a Timberlake/Usher joint?
who do you think the We Are The 99% musicians should be?
On Saturday we headed to Times Square for the protest party. We expected a large crowd, lots of confusion, the uneasy feeling of crowds in a crowded place, and perhaps some cops with attitudes watching over a drum circle.
What we got was pretty much that, along with a deep sense of irony about voluntarily going to Times Square on the weekend.
The diversity of the protestors is one of the strongest aspects of the protest. I don’t just mean diversity in color, but in age, demographic, and economic status. There were folks from everywhere, holding signs, holding each other, and holding on to some kind of abstract idea of what a better world is like. Being among them provided me with a sense of personal solidarity I had never really felt before. My financial situation, like everyone else’s financial situation, has always been this thing I never really spoke about. It’s rude to ask what your friends about their salary, or how much they pay in rent, or what they have in debt or savings. It’s rude to say you can’t afford something, or to brag about all the stuff you just bought. Money makes people uncomfortable, and its one of the top reasons couples break up and friendships fall apart.
I think that is what has been the most interesting aspect of the Occupy Wall Street protests. We’re talking about money in away that brings us together. We’re talking about the fact that while many of us have zero debt and large saving accounts (large is of course, subjective), some of us have $300 or less to our name. Some of us piece together money from here or there to make rent, or we live with our parents, or we spend every night in a bed grateful that we’re not on the street. We all come to a place of uncertainty, and that is the ultimate tie that binds us to this movement.
We are admitting that though we worked hard, planned ahead, and did everything we were told to do (for the most part), we are still in the shitter. The dreams we had of owning stuff (houses, cars, engagement rings, a full fridge of groceries), may seem out of our reach. We wish we had done things different, we wished we had stashed that Bar Mitzvah cash, went to a state school, and never tried to keep up with the Joneses or the Kardashians. We wish we were different people, in a different country, with rules that were fair and leaders who weren’t secret crooks. We wish we could still have hope in Obama, that he was still someone we felt could change things for us. We wish there were more options. We wish we had freedom from want and were allowed to pursue happiness, like we were promised.
But here is the thing — the best part of my generation, something we’ve all learned because we’ve been oversharing on the internet for the greater part of 15 years, is that wishing rarely gets you anywhere. It takes planning, organization, strategy, and hard work (or a really excellent YouTube video!) to make change happen for ourselves. Focusing this energy on the larger issue of our collective hardships is what is going to make all the difference and keep this movement going.
The logical next step is for the Occupy Wall Street protestors to find some sympathetic politicians and start drafting some legislation. Hopefully this will happen soon, as my generation has a reputation for not paying attention to anything for very long. Though hopefully this time will be different.
Anything is possible in America (and especially New York), after all.
What we are watching when we watch the Kardashians
I can see why everyone finds the Kardashians so hypnotic. They have all these nice things and everything seems so clean and new and different from everything you own. They’re like that rich friend you had growing up who’s mom had champagne taste. Black sequins. Marble counter tops in the bathroom. Everyone has perfect teeth and hair.
But I have been secret watching this show for long enough to tell you something important: the Kardashian’s are actually the stoner kids in school who just drove around looking for something to do every day. Like, all they do is find ways to prank each other, get surgeries, and fight with their boyfriends. That is what they are paid to do. I know this seems obvious and tired and other people have said this a million times and whatever but really, all they do is DRIVE AROUND LOOKING FOR SHIT TO DO.
One reason why some people oppose same-sex marriage is that they’ve never met a happy, loving gay couple or family. That’s what the Campaign for Southern Equality is trying to change with the WE DO Campaign. For the past 10 days, same-sex couples in Asheville, North Carolina have been showing up…
We’re going to visit my lifelong best friend and her husband in North Carolina in a few weeks. She sent me pictures of their newish house…and ugh. Knowing what they pay in rent is the first part, looking at all the space, nature, and coziness they have is another. While I wouldn’t make the trade just yet, I think a common feeling a lot of New Yorkers have is country lust. Get Us Out Of Here!… but just long enough to miss the stupid crazy city.
Okay, I love it. I knew I would. Last night I went to bed at 10pm, woke up at 7:30am - well rested and ready to conquer the world. I’ve already read this giant essay, paid some student loans, did some client work, and drank a soy pumpkin spice latte. I feel pretty certain that at this rate, I will be 85% more Beyonce by Monday.
NEVERMIND!!! I'LL FIND SOMEONE LIKE YOU!!! (DON'T LOOK AT ME!!!!!!!!)
Do you think some unbalanced people hear Adele’s ‘Someone Like You’ and are inspired to show up at their ex’s place of work and sing the song and/or try to reconcile? I mean, it sort of brings out the break up crazies in all of us, right?
Me and my DP (domestic partner, duh, pictured above) are giving up booze for the next two weeks. It’s sort of an experiment with the question, “will this make us better, more well adjusted people?” I know some people never drink, and some people who drink give it up for a really long time (I have a friend on an intense diet and she hasn’t drank for MONTHS)… but um, how goes it? We generally have a glass of wine every night (sometimes two), and the weekend is pretty social and liquidy. I am looking forward to not being hungover/slug-brained, but I am already wondering what will happen when, say, Thursday rolls around.
Here are some questions I have about not drinking…
1. Will it make Boardwalk Empire better or worse?
2. Will I crave pasta less?
3. Will I sleep better, longer, or neither?
4. Will my face look different?
5. Will it make me want to move to Hollywood to be 100 types of healthy and successful?
Predictions?! A “how long will it last?” bracket? Do as you will!
Having a couple of my girls over for dinner tonight & they are EATERS. So I am going to go full fall and make some serious butternut squash and spinach lasagna & some kind of pumpkin dessert. It might also be time to decorate….
One of my clients is the incredible company Pretty Padded Room. They offer online therapy sessions and services to people who are too busy to get to the doc’s couch every week. As someone in a live-in relationship with a therapist, I find it particularly amusing that I get to do content development, digital marketing, and strategy for the internet version of Geoff’s real-life day-to-day.
Here is some content I developed about deciding to make a career change (relevant, no?).